Monday, August 20, 2007

Growing Older; Growing Up

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challengedus to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to lookaround when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.

I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at mewith a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, 'Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?'

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, 'Of course you may!' and shegave me a giant squeeze.

'Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?' I asked.

She jokingly replied, 'I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids...'

'No seriously,' I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to betaking on this challenge at her age.

'I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!' she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared achocolate milkshake.

We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we wouldleave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this 'time machine' as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easilymade friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was livingit up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our footballbanquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and tepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech,she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and alittle embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, 'I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey iskilling me! I'll never get my speech back in order so et me just tellyou what I know.'

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, '! We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.

There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.

We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!

There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If youare nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-sevenyears old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.

Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.

The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather forthings we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.'

She concluded her speech by courageously singing 'The Rose.'

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute tothe wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of adviceto your friends and family, they'll really enjoy it!

These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.


We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.

God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you toit, He will bring you through it.

'Good friends are like stars.........You don't always see them, but youknow they are always there.'-Anonymous

Monday, August 13, 2007







她娓娓地講述著這些,就如她不急不躁地構築她的良好人生。良好人生肯定不被小說家與劇作家看好,因為良好人生不能構成他們的創作素材, 他們更感興趣的是──事業有成而家庭破碎,金璧輝煌的陰影裡藏匿著墮落,幸福來臨卻緊隨著死神。有一項優秀就總有一項不及格。



米蘭昆德拉有一本書叫「生活在他方」,我對這五個字有很好的聯想, 我們的生活總是在遠方,都在想:如果明天我有錢,我就可以……。但是如果你現在賺少錢不快樂,就算你有再多的錢,我保證你也不會快樂。




男人跟女人都很喜歡在自己的人生設一個 deadline。比如說:我 25 歲一定要結婚,26 歲一定生孩子,30 歲時一定要一男一女,31 歲的時候一定要有房子……所以很多決定就很草率。如果剛開始你找的那個人就不對,往後再怎麼努力都不對有時候,我們常常會覺得婚結了,所有問題就沒了,那如果結了婚還有問題,就趕快把小孩生一生,其實你的問題在這個階段沒解決,在下個階段只會變大。





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