Monday, May 25, 2009

Work to Live or Live to Work


An inspiring story from a forwarded email for sharing. Read on and share with your love ones.

有錢並不能代表一切
,感情,生命一般情況下錢是賣不來的.
年薪三十万后
,妻子却离我而去.

最近我的一位朋友刚刚离婚,

常常跑到我家来聊天诉苦。

这位弟兄算是大家羡慕的成功人士吧,

他在华尔街任分析师,年薪三十万美金,开宝马。


我和他是大学同学,

又都住在新泽西,

现在已是无话不说。

说来惭愧,我的年薪只有七万,

还要带两个小孩和不工作的老婆,

买房子是根本不用想了,

也总被一些同学认为没出息。

我一向羡慕这个朋友,

那么有追求,

事业那么成功,

看我这土老冒,

安逸享乐,

这辈子算浪费了。


本来我和老婆准备帮助这位朋友和他老婆和好的,

但是我知道他们离婚的原因后,也觉得无话可说了
....
开始对生活有了新的认识。

他和老婆是大学同学,青梅竹马,让人羡慕。
来美国后,两人都开始为学习生活努力,

并且毕业后都找到好工作,更流煞人。

工作两年后,弟兄被哥伦比亚大学录取去读
MBA
毕业后又到华尔街工作,

而我这时刚在一个学校找到职位,

老婆也生了个儿子,羡慕死人家了。


可是不要只是看到这弟兄光鲜的外表,
他的婚姻却正在经历痛苦。

刚开始两人一起工作时,

他老婆问要不要小孩,

他说还有好多事没有做完,没有精力。

在念
MBA时,每天早出晚归忙学习,连老婆也忽略了,
老婆几次希望能亲密一下,他都已经睡着了。

在华尔街工作后,老婆认为终于可以喘口气了,

却不想他更是每天早出晚归,

因为工作压力比念
MBA还大。

又过了两年,我又有第二个女儿了,

他的薪水加奖金也几乎是我薪水的
3了,
老婆却要和他离婚了。

女人生小孩也有压力,

她的年龄已经太大,不生就晚了;

而他却天天忙工作,

回到家不是太晚就是太累,

他们亲密的机会很少。


最近,他发现自己已经阳痿了,

试了几次都不行。

老婆一气之下和他离婚了

不是因为阳萎,而是觉得他不爱她。


听完他的诉苦,我无话可说。

一直被大家羡慕的夫妻生活竟是这样过的,

宝马装的竟全是痛苦。

钱,钱,钱,现在的人为什么就好像是钻到了钱坑,

忽略了其他任何的一切。


钱是身外之物,生不带来,死不带走,

赚那么多却没有机会花岂不是很悲哀。

我相信现在每年赚三十万的他,

宁可花所有的钱来每年来买我的生活,

我的老婆和小孩,

可是为什么非要到太晚才觉悟呢?


他现在正在找一个压力小薪水低的工作,

可是谈何容易。

除了其他华尔街公司要他做类似的职位外,

几乎没有其他公司愿意出那么高价来聘用他。

他薪水的一半对于一般的公司都太高了。


他开玩笑说是走上了不归路。

生活的真正意义是你在死前回过头来问自己是不是活的很

快乐,是不是对得起家人,

而不是一辈子赚了多少钱。

我们的小孩也根本不在乎他们是不是有高级玩具,

而是有没有爸爸陪他们玩不花钱的游戏。


有人认为如果不趁年轻时赚钱将来怎么办。

人不能活在将来,因为你怎么知道你有将来?

你甚至怎么知道你有明天?未来?

还有将来的将来?

什么时候是你的今天?

钱是永远也赚不完的。

但是你一定确定你有现在,

你可以把现在活好。


而且有没有出息并不是完全用钱来衡量的。
对于我来说,

我的出息是可以每天早早回到家陪家人吃饭和陪小孩玩。

这也是有出息。


Marco's comment:
Due to stress, our body become acidic. Acidic environment is favorable to many diseases including cancers.
Hence, control your stress and you will see the different. Again, work life balance is the only way out.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

A coffee session with an inspiring lady


I was having a business discussion with one of the product executive from a very well-known IT distributor company at Starbulks Coffee in the afternoon.

This is not the first time I met her, we have met each other about a month ago at a luncheon where even we sat at the same table, due to the distance between our seats, we were not able to have much conversation.

Something worth mentioning was this is the first time that I used my Large Format Printer blogs as presentation material. I can see some positive response from her after the presentation (hopefully I'm right). To not get her bored, I decided put a stop on business talk and switched over to some casual discussion with the intention of getting to know each other better (don't get me wrong, I'm not tackling her).

I understand from her that many of the employees of the company she is working at are very happy with the company policies and cultures. The main points that worth to highlights are as below:

1. Work life balance is the value of the company.
2. The company offered reasonable remuneration and benefits.
3. The management of the company value efficiency, creativity and smart thinking than hard works.

She has elaborated further on point 1. This MNC is expecting the staffs to leave at 6:00pm. By 6:30pm, all the lights will be switched off. This measure is to cultivate work efficiency as well as conserve the energy.

Maybe this may also explains that why most of the staffs who work for this company looks healthy and energetic.

(Ironically, the time now has already passed 12:00am in the morning, I am still writing this post at this late hour because I just got back home 45 minutes ago from work and just can't get into the bed as my hair is still wet.)

Saturday, May 16, 2009

七个对不起 (Sorry, I love you!)

A scenario that is facing by many families. A moment of desire and lust can cause unrecoverable damages to your love ones.

男孩和女孩从小就认识,男孩经常约女孩一起去村外的池塘边捉小虾,每次男孩总是满载而归,女孩却是两手空空,女孩总是失落的含着眼泪,独自一个人回到家,然后闷闷不乐。晚饭前,男孩敲响女孩家的门,女孩一见是男孩,扭头就走,男孩追上前,对女孩说:“对不起,我把你的虾都捉走了,给,我把它们养在小鱼缸里,送给你。”女孩眉头一放, 慧心的笑了, 就这样反复着他们纯纯的童年, 转眼, 他们各自成长着。
——纯纯的“对不起”。

男孩总是喜欢戏弄女孩,经常会把女孩逗到哭,然后又去哄女孩到她笑为止,直到长大后,也是如此。
男孩经常偷偷的把女孩的自行车轮胎的气放到没有,然后躲在远处,看女孩着急的走投无路,等着女孩拨通他的手机,然后破口大骂他的小贼行为。可男孩, 依旧那么喜欢这样的女孩。他窃窃的从远处走来,灰溜溜的为女孩推着那辆没了气的自行车,任由女孩在一旁发牢骚,男孩却暗自窃喜,然后委屈的对女孩说:“对不起,我知道错了。”随即,女孩便会柔弱下来,告诉男孩下次不允许那样,男孩点头,于是,那时的他们每天都充满着笑容。
——“对不起”的快乐。

大学毕业后,男孩和女孩各自有了工作,男孩的工作总是很忙,有时一个月都休息不到一次,而女孩总是抱怨男孩冷落了她,终于,他们有了第一次的吵架。女孩委屈的哭起来, 可男孩却很理直气壮的告诉女孩: “这是为了我的工作。”这场冷战持续了很久。终于,女孩还是忍不住,主动和男孩和好了。后来很多次男孩和女孩都因为这样的小事而吵得不可开交, 可每次, 都是女孩先妥协。

那年,女孩生日,男孩答应女孩要给他过一个浪漫的生日,女孩欣喜不已,她在家精心打扮,等着男孩回来陪她渡过这个美妙的生日,这一等就是凌晨,女孩在睡梦中醒来,脸上挂着泪痕,男孩见到女孩,心疼的为女孩擦去脸庞的泪痕:“对不起,嫁给我好吗?”于是男孩拿出一枚戒指。
——“对不起”也是一种承诺。

婚后,男孩的事业大有成就,经常有许多应酬,而女孩已经成为一个专职太太了,每天在家为男孩准备热菜热饭,把家里收拾的干干净净,她经常会去菜场买回一些小河虾放在鱼缸里养着,男孩总问他为什么,女孩却总是慧心的一笑。

慢慢的,男孩每次回家,身上总是充满了不同的香水味道,而每次没等女孩问,男孩总是忙着解释说应酬太多。女孩黯然, 那时起, 女孩不太爱说话了, 也不像以前那么开朗了, 她总是喜欢成天的呆在家里, 抱着枕头看韩剧, 然后随着剧情哭泣, 夜深时,就会疯狂的大哭。以后的日子里,男孩回来时,身上的香水味只有一种味道了,女孩从来不问,可是男孩依旧说:“对不起,今天又去应酬了。”
——“对不起”, 谎言的开始。

渐渐的,男孩开始不回家,或总是在外出差,男孩的事业越来越好,身边都是奉承的人,他每天都在别人的恭维下自豪的笑着,而女孩,几乎不出门了,她总会去超市买上很多方便面,和一些必要的日用品,然后把自己关在家里,这一呆就是很久。从前, 女孩会经常和男孩一起聊聊天, 而现在, 她孤身一人, 身边没有一个可以说话的人, 每次打电话问男孩什么时候回家, 男孩总是仓促的回答到: “对不起,我太忙了。”女孩, 失落的扣上电话, 那以后她再也没有问男孩什么时候会回家。
——“对不起”, 只是个敷衍的方式。

女孩学着电视上的样子,开始打扮自己,她觉得男孩不回家,也许是看腻了她,她决定不再颓废,自己的幸福应该靠自己争取,而不是无谓的后退。

那天,女孩心血来潮,按照地址去了男孩工作的地方,那是女孩第一次去,也是唯一的一次。女孩涩涩的按下电梯, 来到这个男孩经常说忙的地方, 她细细的观察这个公司的每个角落, 这里的一切, 她都觉得很好看。终于,绕过长长的办公走廊,她来到男孩的办公室,轻轻的推开门……女孩愣住了,眼前看到的不是自己的丈夫,也不是那个经常弄坏她自行车的那个贼小子,更不是那个把虾放在小鱼缸里的男孩,而是一个正在和别的女人做爱的男人。那个女人坐在桌子上发出微弱的呻吟声, 那个男人, 仿佛山林里饿极了的野兽……

许久,男孩才发现了女孩,男孩惊慌失措,忙把衣裤捡起来穿好。可女孩, 转身离开了。男孩飞奔出去,追着女孩,那晚,大雨袭击了整个城市。女孩不顾男孩的叫喊, 径直往前跑, 往回家的方向跑, 男孩在女孩后面大喊: “对不起, 我还是爱你的, 对不起, 我真的只爱你。”可女孩, 始终没有听见。
——这样的“对不起”太伤人。

男孩一直都没有找到女孩,女孩失踪很久了。男孩的世界已经一片黑暗, 无心工作, 无心花天酒地, 他想不到女孩可以去哪里, 因为女孩没有朋友, 她唯一的朋友就是男孩, 男孩终日守着电话机, 手机24小时不关机, 怕错过了女孩的电话。这一等就是半年多。
快递为男孩送来一个盒子。
男孩打开一看,里面是许多河虾的标本,有的在树叶边休息,有的在水草里躲着,各式各样的河虾标本,旁边放着一封信。

“我始终没有勇气再见到你,可能是我太懦弱,也或许是我根本不想见到你,应该过的没什么两样吧,我很好,我学会了离开你怎么让自己存活,我懂得了怎样赚钱养活自己,而不用每天等着你回家,为你烧一桌热腾腾的饭菜,直到凉了也不见你的人,我的手机已经不用了,因为我已经不会再为你24小时的不关机,让自己饱受辐射的折磨。我懂得怎样去爱惜自己,珍惜自己的本来应该美好的生活。我想, 我是可以忘记怎么去爱你的, 因为你把我的爱弄得遍地麟伤。

离婚协议书,就压在鱼缸的底下,你签完字,按照地址给我寄过来就行了。
对不起,我想我是真的累了。”

男孩按照地址找去,他满心希望能够见到女孩,然后让女孩原谅,并且告诉女孩自己不能没有她,可是打开门的却是女孩的父亲,而女孩就站在她父亲的身后——是女孩的遗像。

女孩的父亲告诉男孩,女孩在写完这封信后,跳楼自杀了,血肉一片模糊。
——原来“对不起”也可以是种结束。

那一年,男孩疯了。

每个人在自己的生命里头,一定会遇到一个自己真正该珍惜的人。请你好好的珍惜那一个人,不是每一句的对不起,都可以换来每一句的没关系……千万不要辜负了自己心爱的人,那对谁,都不好……把这个故事传下去,让你的朋友们知道,不要随意地说出对不起……

Marco's comment:
This story is so real. If you have a full time housewife, love her and be faithful to her. If you are a full time housewife, it is worth to some time and money to make up yourself.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Be aware at car park zone


Another forwarded email that contained life saving information. Please read on.

Last Saturday, 11th April 2009, my girlfriend and I were in Mid Valley “The Gardens” for a movie. We finished around 8.40pm. I had parked my car just right above the ‘GSC Signature Cinema’ on the 5th floor. As we were getting into our car, we realized that the parking fee had not been paid. We decided to stop by the Auto pay station on the lower parking level to do the payment.

We drove 2 floors down and couldn't’t locate the Auto Pay Station. We decided to park our car at 2nd floor wondering if there should be a pay station in the mall at the lobby area. My girlfriend decided to wait in the car as she was on the phone. was walking into the mall looking for an Auto Pay Station, failing to find one, I decided to walk 1 floor down. About minutes time, my girlfriend called me on my mobile phone and she sounded terrified . She was shouting for help. She told me that there is a guy who is trying to get into the car. The guy was trying to get into the car very calmly, pretending getting into his own car. He failed to open and refuses to continue trying as he noticed that she was on the phone calling for help. Luckily, she had locked the door just right after I got out earlier. I run up as quickly as possible to reach her.
The moment I reached to the parking area, I saw the guy walking away slowly from the car. He was walking towards the ramp heading to the upper level. As I ran up the ramp, though I could still see him I realized that I was running away from my car again. It could be teamwork just to divert my presence from my car. I got back to my girlfriend quickly to calm her down.

We made an official report to the Mid Valley security management to investigate on the CCTV. It was a lesson learned for us to be more careful in the parking zones. I’m happy that my girlfriend is still here with me today. Please be watchful in parking zones.
Tips that we should be aware:
Never leave your family members/love ones and valuable items in the car at parking location.

Marco's comment:
It is important to hold a hand phone with camera. Besides calling for help, one can also snap the face shot of the buggers, this will be very helpful in getting rid of these social security threatening rubbish!

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

和另一女人約會! 


一定要看完...... 感人
當我看完, 百感交集, 熱淚盈框,當我們窮於應付生活所需之時, 是否也忽略了些什麼 ?
很感人的一篇文章 , 分享給你!

和另一女人約會?

結婚了廿一年後,我發現了一種別出心裁的方法,可以讓愛的火花永保新鮮。

不久以前 ,我和另一位女士約會,其實那還是我妻子的主意。

有一天她說:「我知道妳很愛她。」我很驚訝,立刻爭辯說:

「但我愛的是妳呀!」「我知道,但你也愛她呀!」

我妻子要我去看的女士是我的母親。

她已經寡居了十九年,然而我忙碌的工作和身為二個孩子父親的責任,令我分身乏術,以致很少有時間和她相聚。

那晚,我打電話給她,邀約她第二天和我一起吃晚餐和看電影。

「怎麼了,你還好嗎?」她問道。

母親是那種會認為晚上那麼晚打電話,又突然邀約她,一定不會有什麼好事的人。

「我想如果有機會和妳單獨約會,一定很有意思。」我回答。

她想了一會兒,然後說:「我非常樂意。」

那個星期五下班以後,我開車去接她時,心裡有一點緊張,

因為從未嚐試過這樣的約會。

當我到達她家時,我看她對這樣的約會,似乎也有一點緊張。

她在門內等著,身上穿著大衣,裡面那件禮服

還是最後一次慶祝結婚紀念日所穿的呢!

她的頭髮還特意捲了一下,臉上的微笑像天使一般。

上了車後,她得意洋洋地說:「我告訴我的朋友,我要和我的兒子外出約會,他們都好羨慕,迫不及待要聽聽我們約會的情形。」

我們去一家雖不豪華,但十分雅致,溫暖舒適的餐廳。

我母親挽住我的臂彎,好像第一夫人一般。

入座以後,我必須幫她看菜單點菜,

因為她的眼睛現在只有大的字才看得見。

用餐一半時,我抬起頭來,看到母親正在凝視我,

嘴角帶著懷舊的笑容說:「記得當你小時候,總是我為你看菜單的。」「那現在妳正好可以休息,輪到我來為妳服務了。」我回答。

一面享用晚餐,我們一面聊天,聊得很愉快,

談了許多最近幾年來,各自生命中的一些事。

我們聊得太久了,所以趕不上電影。當我送她回到家門口,

她說「我要再和你一起外出,但下次讓我作東好嗎?」我答應了。

回家後,妻子問我:「你的晚餐約會如何?」

「非常有意思,比我想像的好多了!」 ~我回答。

幾天以後,母親因心臟病猝發而去世。這事發生得太突然了,

讓我完全措手不及。

不久以後,我收到一封信,裡面是上次我和母親約會的那家餐館的一張收據,上面有一張字條寫著:「我已先付了賬,因為我確定自己不可能再有機會去了,但我還是付了兩人份的賬──你和你的妻子。

你絕對想不到那一晚的約會對我有多大的意義,我愛你。」

從那一刻起,我深深體會,一定要及時說:

「我愛你」,並且要常常撥出時間給我們所愛的人。

世上沒有任何事比自然如來因緣和你的家庭更重要,

多花時間和他們在一起,因為這事絕不能拖延到「以後有時間再說 ...」。

「樹欲靜而風不止,子欲養而親不待」 是人生一大憾事。

~{ 愛無分 ,愛有份}~

不要等到爱得太迟,珍惜现在。祝您辛福!

Marco's comment:
Real touching story. Take care of your parents while they are still around.

Friday, May 01, 2009

God bless and good-bye


A father put his three year old daughter to bed, told her a story and listened to her prayers which she ended by saying.

"God bless Mommy, God bless daddy, God bless grandma and good-bye grandpa."

The father asked, "Why did you say good-bye grandpa?"
The little girl said, "I don't know daddy, it just seemed like the thing to do."

The next day grandpa passed away.

The father thought it was a strange coincidence.

A few months later the father put the girl to bed and listened to her prayers, which went like this: "God bless Mommy, God Bless daddy and good-bye grandma."

The next day the grandmother passed away.

Oh my god, thought the father, this kid is in contact with the other side.

Several weeks later when the girl was going to bed the dad heard her say, "God bless Mommy and good-bye daddy."

He practically went into shock.
He couldn't sleep all night and got up at the crack of dawn to go to his office.
He was nervous as a cat all day, had lunch sent in and watched the clock.

He figured if he could get by until midnight he would be okay.
He felt safe in the office, so instead of going home at the end of the day he stayed there, looking at his watch and jumping at every sound.

Finally midnight arrived, he breathed a sigh of relief and went home.

When he got home his wife said "I've never seen you work so late, what's the matter?"
He said "I don't want to talk about it, I've just spent the worst day of my life."

She said "You think you had a bad day, you'll never believe what happened HERE.

He asked "What??????"

She said " This morning our neighbor James suddenly died. "

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