Monday, July 20, 2009

Perodua Myvi Defect: Petrol Smell In The Cabin After Refueling


Most of the corporates are practising the CSR (Corporate Social Responsibilities) to enhance the corporate image buy contributing to the society. I feel extremely annoyed while I read that Perodua is creating public awareness on their CSR activities as while Perodua is short handed in resolving the customer complaints, what's the point of so-called CSR? For show?

My father owned a Perodua Myvi which the petrol smell persists all the while, and the smell become extremely strong everytime after refueling. After I surfed through the web, I understand this is a common defects of most of the Myvi cars (maybe all). There is no effort from the Perodua management in re-calling the Myvi cars for repairing or replacement.

Just imagine the consequences of inhaling of the petrol (gasoline) fumes in long term? It is life threatening!

Where is the professionalism and business ethic of Perodua management? Does CSR carries any meaning to a corporate that shows no business ethic?

Link to the Motor Trader Forum to understand further.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

婆家好不好?老公很重要!‏(網路轉載)


最近和朋友討論了婆媳問題,
很多婆媳問題的產生,其實
"老公"的角色佔很重要的因素
如果老公做的好,不但不會有婆媳問題,
反而能夠讓老婆更受寵愛喔
!

婆婆通常都疼兒子,這是千年不變的道理,
縱使現在已經接近男女平等
,
但是媽媽愛兒子的心是不會改變的,
所以當她的兒子身邊多了一個女人,

"比較"沒感覺
當兒子交了女友,娶了老婆,當媽媽的就會想:
兒子
"比較"聽老婆的話,
兒子
"比較"常跟老婆在一起,
兒子
"比較"常跟老婆說話,
兒子對老婆
"比較"好,
本來嘛,女人就是比較小心眼
~無論是小姐還是升級到了媽媽角色,
愛計較的心還是不會變的
~

在婆媳關係上,我很慶幸,老公幫了我很大忙
~聽我娓娓道來...
我老公是麼子,婆婆高齡得子,對兒子一定百般疼愛,

但是對我而言,婆婆的年齡足以當我阿嬤了
~
我從小生長在只有爸媽
&弟弟的家庭,
根本沒有和老人家相處過
~對我而言~這就是一門障礙,
知道這點障礙
~在交往過程中,就很少去男友家,
抱著多一事不如少一事的心態,

到結婚前,老實說,我對婆家一點都不熟,個性問題,即使想做點好媳婦的事情也都不太會講話
(尤其是台語),更別說做家事了~
所以在結婚前,我非常非常的害怕和驚恐,怕自己會成為八點檔受欺負媳婦角色,

但是結婚後這半年來,發現我真的想太多了
~因為婆媳問題,只要老公肯用點心就能和樂融融~相敬如賓

以下是我們自己的
"活生生"小撇步~
當然並不一定適用大家
~因為每個人家庭狀況不同~

在還在交往之中,老公就一直不段的
"催眠"婆婆和大哥大嫂,我是多麼的替他著想,讓他可以在工作上無後顧之憂的衝...~對於我的事情,只有"誇讚",不能"批評"
雖然好事大家忘的快,但是壞事永記銘心,所以老公無論如何都不會向婆家抱怨我。

這需要長時間
~一點一點的灌溉~要讓婆婆知道這媳婦多為他兒子著想。

PS.
不要奢望婆婆一開始就把你當女兒,就像妳很難把她當妳媽媽一樣

所有"好事",都是我做的。例如:婆婆生日,老公會打電話回去,跟婆婆說:「莎莎一直提醒我今天是妳生日,她不好意思跟你說,怕我忘記,要我打電話來祝妳生日快樂。」
例如:過年過節總有公司或某原因拿到的禮盒,就算不是我的,老公拿回家也會說:「這是莎莎特別買來孝敬你的。」

例如:大哥大嫂小孩考試,當天他打電話回去:「莎莎提醒我今天是你考試,考的怎麼樣阿
?她很關心喔!!
例如:上次清明節買拖鞋
~拿回婆家也是大肆的告知我是多麼用心為她們挑的...
例如:母親節,我說想去淡水買餅吃,老公確認我也同意一起去後,就跟婆婆說:「莎莎說今天母親節要帶你出去走走
...
例如:上次帶婆婆去日本,用老公的獎金
~他還是跟婆婆說:「這是莎莎省吃儉用要帶妳出國,錢都是她出的」
這是一件很神奇的事情,當這些事情做成習慣,當媳婦可以當的很開心


善意的謊言
我若和老公
2人出國,絕對不會讓婆家知道,或者用出差名義。
出國去玩雖然不是壞事,但是老人家會認為
"奢侈"或者"浪費",
與其讓她心裡不是滋味,不如不說
~但若時間過長怕起疑,就用出國出差來掩飾,
"
去玩帶禮物回來""和出差帶禮物回來",婆婆收到的感覺絕對不一樣!

盡量不提
2人出去玩的事情
因為婆婆傳統,認為任何時間家裡都一定要有人看家,有時和朋友有約,或者和老公去約會,都一定會說去工作,或者去上課
~
我曾經不太高興,認為『為何要說謊
?為何不能光明正大去玩,去約會?你媽都不會覺得很奇怪?為何你都不用跟我約會?
不過,還真的很奇怪,婆婆真的就不會這樣想
~
雖然說了實話是不會怎麼樣,但是不說,有時候反而比較自在,

現在這樣久了,婆婆
"真的"會催我們出去走走~是一件好事呢

永遠都很窮,永遠都沒有年終加薪

沒有期望就沒有失望,所以每年給婆婆錢的時候,她反而會擔心我們自己夠不夠,如果一直大肆宣揚自己事業多成功,那家人就不會那麼珍惜賺錢的辛苦。

老公每次都會跟婆婆說:「都是莎莎幫我存錢,不然我根本沒有積蓄
...
本來就是,兒子多會花錢老媽頂多唸唸,但是媳婦很會花錢,就是大逆不道
!
尤其花到兒子錢,更該死
!所以無論如何都要營造出:媳婦很省會理財。
每次我只要剛好有穿到便宜衣服到婆家,老公就會說:「媽你看,莎莎很厲害這件衣服才
100元喔!!
婆婆不疼妳才怪
~

夫妻總有小吵架,但是無論多嚴重的吵架,老公都不能跟婆家抱怨老婆的不是,媳婦在婆家還是少說多做
~不會做就"電電"看,維持乖乖形象就對了。

有什麼不滿的事情,讓老公說,不要自己說
~
例如:婆家一直都不滿意我們宴客場地
~我ㄧ度也差點要放棄~但是老公知道我很喜歡,所以一直堅持:「莎莎也勸我不要辦在這裡,但是我就是喜歡~」老公絕對不能說:「沒辦法,老婆要阿!」目的是同樣"結果"。 只是過程修飾一下,就會離想要的結果更接近

兒子再壞,還是自己的兒子。媳婦再好,也不是自己的女兒。

所以,如果要家庭合諧,兒子在家裡不妨犧牲一下

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

最好的安慰是無言的微笑和傾聽


懂得什麼時候不要說話,是一種智慧。當朋友也是一樣。
在別人哀慟欲絕的時候,你還要追根究底,就像人家的傷疤好不容易在結痂,你還來撥人家的痂。
最好的安慰是無言的微笑,和傾聽。
有智慧的父母也是孩子福份。

在英國遊學的時候,住宿家庭隔壁就住了一對很有智慧的夫妻。
他們剛好度過七年之癢。有一次我在院子看書,目睹隔壁院子發生的事情。

布朗先生正在教他五歲的兒子安迪使用剪草機,父子兩剪得正高興時,父親進門去接?電話。接著我看到一幕慘劇;
五歲的安迪把剪草機推向父親最愛的鬱金香花園,
不一會,已經有兩公尺長的花圃遭殃。
布朗先生出來,鐵青著一張臉。眼看他的拳頭已經高高的舉起...
忽然,布朗太太出來了,她看見滿目狼藉的花圃,
馬上知明白發生了什麼事。
她小聲、溫柔地對先生笑道:「喂,我們現在人生最大的幸福是養孩子,不是在養鬱金香。」
三秒鐘後,他們交換一個吻,一切歸於平靜。

我把這個故事告訴好友,她是個家庭主婦。
後來她告訴我,很感激我跟她說這個故事。

以前孩子打破東西,我少不了罵他兩聲,現在我會告訴自己,對我重要的是孩子,不是碗。
哪個小孩在成長過程不會打破東西呢?」
情緒智商高的人懂得分輕重。

如果你真的珍視感情的價值,就該懂得在他倒霉的時候施小惠。
也許我們都沒有聰明到「一句解千愁」的地步。
但傾聽卻是人人做得到的施恩行為。

說話浮躁的,如刀刺入;智慧人的舌頭,卻為醫人的良藥。"

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

Family


I ran into a stranger as he passed by, 'Oh excuse me please' was my reply.
He said, 'Please excuse me too; I wasn't watching for you.'

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told.
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
my son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
'Move out of the way,' I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake in bed, God's still small voice came to me and said,
'While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use,but the family you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor, You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you. He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise, you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.'

By this time, I felt very small,
and now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
'Wake up, little one, wake up,' I said...

'Are these the flowers you picked for me?'
He smiled, 'I found 'em, out by the tree.

I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue.'

I said, 'Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way.'

He said, 'Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway.'

I said, 'Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue....'

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us ina matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think?
So what is behind the story?

Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU


Marco's comment:
One of my friend, who feel it is an obligation to stay late at the office. With or without outstanding task, he normally stay until 9:00 to 10:00pm during every work days.

He is in the midst of getting a nanny to take care of his less than one-year-old daughter. I heard that he informed the prospected nanny that he and his wife need to work very late every day and expecting the nanny to take care of his daughter until night time everyday. I really doubt if he can get a right nanny that can give good care of his daughter and at the same time accepting the ridiculous request which is to take care of the baby from 7:00am to at least 9:00pm everyday.

The upbringing process of baby is extremely important. It is the parents duty to take care of the babies, not the grandparents nor the nanny and Indonesian maid. What is the point of having children while you are not taking care of them but your job? It is kind of selfish and irresponsible for giving an excuse that you have a day time job that need to work very late and push away the parenting responsibilities to the maid and nanny.

If you can't give your children and family the priority, it is better to stay bachelor. Agree?

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