Friday, January 22, 2010

美好人生


人之所以痛苦,在于追求错误的东西
 
如果你不给自己烦恼,别人也
永远不可能给你烦恼。因为你自己的内心,你放不下。
 
好好的管教你自己
,不要管别人。
 
你随时要认命,
因为你是人
 
这个世界
本来就是痛苦的,没有例外的。
 
你什么时候
放下,什么时候就没有烦恼。
 
每一种创伤,
都是一种成熟
 
当你烦恼的时候,你就要告诉你自己,这一切都是假的,
你烦恼什么
 
根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁,如果有一条疯狗咬你一口,
难道你也要趴下去反咬他一口吗
 
忌妒别人
,不会给自己增加任何的好处。忌妒别人,也不可能减少别人的成就。
 
永远不要浪费你的一分一秒
,去想任何你不喜欢的人。
 
得不到的东西,我们会一直以为他是美好的,那是因为你对他了解太少,没有时间与他相处在一起。当有一天,你深入了解后,你会发现原
不是你想像中的那么美好
 
这个世间
只有圆滑,没有圆满的
 
不要刻意去猜测他人的想法
,如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断,通常都会有错误的。
 
你要
感谢告诉你缺点的人
 
时间总会过去的,
让时间流走你的烦恼吧
 
不要因为小小的争执
,远离了你至亲的好友,也不要因为小小的怨恨,忘记了别人的大恩。
 
感谢上苍
我所拥有的,感谢上苍我所没有的。
 
当你手中抓住一件东西不放时,你只能拥有这件东西,如果
你肯放手,你就有机会选择别的。人的心若死执自己的观念,不肯放下,那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度而已。
 
如果
你能够平平安安的渡过一天,那就是一种福气了。多少人在今天已经见不到明天的太阳,多少人在今天已经成了残废,多少人在今天已经失去了自由,多少人在今天已经家破人亡。
 
恶口永远不要出自于我们的口中
,不管他有多坏,有多恶。你愈骂他,你的心就被污染了,你要想,他就是你的善知识。
 
不要常常觉得自己很委曲,你应该要想,他对我这样已经很好了,这就是修行的功夫。
 
世界原本就不是属于你,因此你用不着抛弃,
要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我所用,但非我所属。
 
学会用理解
的,欣赏的眼光去看对方,而不是以自以为是的关心去管对方。
 
成熟的人
不问过去;聪明的人不问现在;豁达的人不问未来。
 
发光并非太阳的专利,
你也可以发光
 
你可以用爱
得到全世界,你也可以用恨失去全世界
 
爱的力量
大到可以使人忘记一切,却又小到连一粒嫉妒的沙石也不能容纳。
 
人总是
珍惜未得到的,而遗忘了所拥有的
 
如你想要拥有完美无暇的友谊,可能
一辈子找不到朋友

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

The Danger of Myspace and Facebook to Your Children


After tossing her books on the sofa, she decided to grab a snack and get on-line.. She logged on under her screen name ByAngel213. She checked her Buddy List and saw GoTo123 was on. She sent him an instant message:

ByAngel213:
Hi. I'm glad you are on! I thought someone was following me home today. It was really weird!

GoTo123:
LOL You watch too much TV. Why would someone be following you? Don't you live in a safe neighborhood?

ByAngel213:
Of course I do. LOL I guess it was my imagination cuz' I didn't see anybody when I looked out.

GoTo123:
Unless you gave your name out on-line. You haven't done that have you?

ByAngel213:
Of course not. I'm not stupid you know.

GoTo123:
Did you have a softball game after school today?

ByAngel213:
Yes, and we won!!

GoTo123:
That's great! Who did you play?

ByAngel213:
We played the Hornets. LOL. Their uniforms are so gross! They look like bees. LOL

GoTo123:
What is your team called?

ByAngel213:
We are the Canton Cats. We have tiger paws on our uniforms. They are really cool.

GoTo1 23:
Did you pitch?

ByAngel213:
No, I play second base. I got to go. My homework has to be done before my parents get home. I don't want them mad at me. Bye!

GoTo123:
Catch you later. Bye

Meanwhile, GoTo123 went to the member menu and began to search for her profile. When it came up, he highlighted it and printed it out. He took out a pen and began to write down what he knew about Angel so far.

Her name: Shannon
Birthday: Jan. 3, 1985
Age: 13
State where she lived: North Carolina

Hobbies: softball, chorus, skating and going to the mall. Besides this information, he knew she lived in Canton because she had just told him. He knew she stayed by herself until 6:30 p.m. every afternoon until her parents came home from work. He knew she played softball on Thursday afternoons on the school team, and the team was named the Canton Cats. Her favorite number 7 was printed on her jersey. He knew she was in the eighth grade at the Canton Junior High School . She had told him all this in the conversations they had on- line. He had enough information to find her now.

Shannon didn't tell her parents about the incident on the way home from the ballpark that day. She didn't want them to make a scene and stop her from walking home from the softball games. Parents were always overreacting and hers were the worst. It made her wish she was not an only child. Maybe if she had brothers and sisters, her parents wouldn't be so overprotective.

By Thursday, Shannon had forgotten about the footsteps following her.

Her game was in full swing when suddenly she felt someone staring at her. It was then that the memory came back. She glanced up from her second base position to see a man watching her closely.

He was leaning against the fence behind first base and he smiled when she looked at him. He didn't look scary and she quickly dismissed the sudden fear she had felt.

After the game, he sat on a bleacher while she talked to the coach. She noticed his smile once again as she walked past him. He nodded and she smiled back. He noticed her name on the back of her shirt. He knew he had found her.

Quietly, he walked a safe distance behind her. It was only a few blocks to Shannon 's home, and once he saw where she lived he quickly returned to the park to get his car.

Now he had to wait. He decided to get a bite to eat until the time came to go to Shannon 's house. He drove to a fast food restaurant and sat there until time to make his move.

Shannon was in her room later that evening when she heard voices in the living room.

"Shannon, come here," her father called.. He sounded upset and she couldn't imagine why. She went into the room to see the man from the ballpark sitting on the sofa.

"Sit down," her father began, "this man has just told us a most interesting story about you."

Shannon sat back. How could he tell her parents anything? She had never seen him before today!

"Do you know who I am, Shannon ?" the man asked..

"No," Shannon answered.

"I am a police officer and your online friend, GoTo123."

Shannon was stunned. "That's impossible! GoTo is a kid my age! He's 14. And he lives in Michigan !"

The man smiled. "I know I told you all that, but it wasn't true. You see, Shannon , there are people on-line who pretend to be kids; I was one of them. But while others do it to injure kids and hurt them, I belong to a group of parents who do it to protect kids from predators. I came here to find you to teach you how dangerous it is to talk to people on-line. You told me enough about yourself to make it easy for me to find you. You named the school you went to, the name of your ball team and the position you played. The number and name on your jersey just made finding you a breeze."

Shannon was stunned. "You mean you don't live in Michigan ?"

He laughed. "No, I live in Raleigh. It made you feel safe to think I was so far away, didn't it?"

She nodded.

"I had a friend whose daughter was like you. Only she wasn't as lucky. The guy found her and murdered her while she was home alone. Kids are taught not to tell anyone when they are alone, yet they do it all the time on-line. The wrong people trick you into giving out information a little here and there on-line. Before you know it, you have told them enough for them to find you without even realizing you have done it. I hope you've learned a lesson from this and won't do it again. Tell others about this so they will be safe too?"

"It's a promise!"

That night Shannon and her Dad and Mom thanked God for protecting Shannon from what could have been a tragic situation.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

媽咪終於抱到妳了 (高子媃的真實故事)

健康真的很重要,回家抱抱家人吧!


滿月的大禮物, 抽骨髓+化療
 

做完輸血治療的媃媃,是否有得到醫生叔叔說的得到很大的改善呢?
結果是令人失望的,看著得到充分營養的腫瘤,不止沒有消退,
反而變得又紅又大,吹彈可破,看到這樣的結果,


媽咪深深的體會到罕見疾病家庭的痛苦與無奈,
包含罕見疾病基金會及任何可以查詢的單位,我們都試了,
得到的是更多的無奈跟失望,


媽咪看到小兒科醫師有點緊張的神情,
告訴媽咪要幫媃媃請小兒血液腫科醫師來看媃媃,


一直到後來很久以後...媽咪才知道...
原來會看這一科的孩子都很可憐.....



腫瘤科醫師看完,馬上就覺得很不對勁,
在這麼短的時間內長這麼快,“很惡性”
希望幫妳抽骨髓,又是一個痛心的決擇,

與其說選擇,不如說我們一點選擇的權利也沒有,
就這樣...妳又被壓著做了抽骨髓的檢查,
媽咪永遠也忘不了妳抽完骨髓後的樣子,
像受盡了委屈及極度的驚嚇,


妳發出了比小貓叫聲還要小聲的哭聲,
看到這樣的妳,媽咪的心真的很痛,
期待這一切的痛苦及心痛,可以在這一次的檢查結果,
得到一個美好的結局,還給媃媃單純的“嬰兒生活”,
難到簡單的幸福對媃媃來說,是這麼的不容易?

原本星期五早上抽骨髓,星期一才可以看報告,
可是星期五的下午我們就得到了很慎重的會談,
醫生告訴我們,從顯微鏡下看出來,應該是“神經母細胞瘤”,
不過還好是媃媃的發病年齡,還有發病位置,是最好醫治的第4s期,

有90%的治癒率,一般來說,大部分這一期的小朋友很多不用治療,
都會自動痊癒,但是媃媃長得比較多,所以希望可以打一點微量的化療,
效果較快,所以她是屬於較良性的,
媽咪回家再上網查了一下,真的是哭到不行,明明上面就是寫著“癌症”,
還有所謂的“較良性”嗎?


媽咪再跑去問醫生叔叔,當初不是有一顆被切下來嗎,可是報告不是良性的嗎?
醫生叔叔的回答是.....我們有回去請他們再重新看當初的那顆切片(是同一顆),
當初....確定是“看錯了”,細胞都長得很像,所以可能看的時候有點看錯!!
拿著“看錯”的良性病歷報告,媽咪真的是無言,難怪看了這麼多醫生也無解,


但是從切片到後來抽骨髓,我們的腫瘤已經多了不只一百顆了,癌症是跟時間賽跑,
三顆跟一百顆,難到治療的結果不會受影響嗎?


我們連喘息及選擇的時間也沒有,就這樣,隔天....
我們帶著媃媃坐上了轉院的救護車,住進了兒童癌症病房,成為了當時,
年紀最小的化療病患....




寶貝...媽咪終於抱到妳了...


媃媃走了....當心跳偵測器的數字掉到0時....我以為我的心跳也會停止....



我親愛的媃媃

媽咪的心好痛...妳終於還是敵不過癌細胞的摧殘...而離開了媽咪...
妳要媽咪該如何是好....妳來當媽咪女兒這七個月...一直都承受著病痛及痛苦的治療至死...
這種痛怎麼可能平復得了...
媽咪一直以為這些痛苦只是一個過程....萬萬沒想到會是妳的結局...
這麼痛苦的人生....妳何苦來走這一遭....媽咪真的覺得妳好可憐...好辛苦....


妳一定不明白...為何從離開媽咪的肚子以後,就一直痛痛...
不是全身都痛到不行,就是一直被很多叔叔阿姨壓著打針,要不然就是承受化療的痛苦 ...

因為這樣的妳,只要一點音樂、一點聲音、一個微笑總能讓妳開心的笑,


即使那些日子少得可憐...但那麼一點點喘息的時間,對妳來說就是最大的恩典,


我可憐的孩子...爸比、媽咪竟然給妳這樣的人生...
媽咪真的不覺得妳想走....
連醫生叔叔都說妳很厲害...可以撐這麼久....
凌晨...妳的強心針早已打到20了...可是妳竟然可以多撐了八小時才離開...
連媽咪都不忍心了...妳還是不肯走...


媽咪請護士阿姨幫幫忙...讓媽咪再抱抱妳....

或許....這就是妳未了的心願吧!

媽咪全身發抖的抱著妳....妳終於肯走了...

在媽咪的懷裏...一直撐住的心跳....終於慢了下來....


我親愛的孩子....媽咪的心真的好痛好痛...

為什麼是這樣的結局....
為什麼一定要讓妳離開....


媽咪什麼都還沒教會妳...什麼都還沒給妳...
只給了妳滿滿痛苦的回憶...而妳就要走了....
不要氣媽咪....


媽咪終於抱到妳了....可是這竟然是最後的擁抱...

媽咪可以留住妳的照片...可是再也留不住妳的味道...


再也摸不到妳...再也感受不到妳的溫度....

對不起...寶貝...媽咪再也不能夠照顧妳了....
媽咪好愛好愛妳 ...媽咪永遠愛妳...


謝謝妳來當媽咪的寶貝...


請妳一定要回來看媽咪....


請妳再回來當媽咪的寶貝...                                                                                                        
深愛妳的媽咪        


高子媃~媃媃...
已於民國98年1月18日,早上8點26分
於台南奇美柳營分院
走完了她短短的7個月又3天的生命
很感謝有這麼多人關心跟疼愛媃媃...
更感謝有這麼多人認識這個孩子...
記得曾經有一個這麼努力想活下來的孩子...

寶貝...是妳嗎...

親愛的媃媃....是妳嗎....

雖然知道妳已經回去耶穌爸爸的身邊了...

但常常跟祂商量....請求祂讓妳再回來一次....

請求祂讓媽咪有機會親自帶妳去認識祂....

請求祂讓媽咪有機會再牽到妳的手....

請求祂讓媽咪有機會再一次抱到妳....

沒有妳...媽咪有好多好多 的遺憾...

有好多好多的事想和妳一起完成....



妳離開後...媽咪一直好希望妳可以來夢中找媽咪....

一直到最近...媽咪終於夢到妳了...是妳嗎....


妳來告訴媽咪...妳又要來當媽咪的女兒了嗎....

妳是來告訴媽咪...這次妳真的準備好了....

其實媽咪有點傷心...因為堅信生命是獨立的個體....

所以媽咪一直很難相信媽咪會這麼幸運...

能夠再生到一次媃媃...



一直到那天....6月10號....
醫生叔叔告訴媽咪“ 應該是女生哦!” ...媽咪又再夢到妳...
也許是體心的媃媃要告訴媽咪...“媽咪...真的是我啦!”
媽咪真的相信了...


我感覺到...我真的快牽到媃媃的手了...
謝謝妳寶貝...謝謝妳還願意再當媽咪的寶貝...
愛妳的媽咪

Monday, January 04, 2010

Credit cards- Potong!

In-line with the imposition of a service tax of RM50 a year on each principal credit card and charge card, and a service tax of RM25 a year on each supplementary card effective Jan 1, 2010, I have decided to perform a total clean up on my credit cards possession.



If I were to hold on to these cards, I will need to spend MYR 550 (approx. USD 160) annually on credit card service tax alone. The ultimate objective is to keep only 2 credit card among all the 11 credit cards.

Marco's Preferred Credit Cards
1. HSBC MasterCard- For the daily expenses.
2. OCBC- Great Eastern Visa Card- For auto debit transactions especially insurance payments.  

Have you POTONG?!

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